Monday, June 25, 2007
There are those who claim this no touch policy is a violation of our First Amendment Rights, perhaps so…touching is certainly one way in which we express ourselves. I think whether it is a violation or not is best left up to the legal minds to decide. Is it right however, for a school or any institution to implement a policy of NO TOUCH? That is open for discussion.
I consider myself to be an expert on bullying, based on my experiences and research. I know that bullying takes on numerous forms and perhaps foremost in our minds is physical bullying. Goodness knows when I was in my bullying years I was involved in my share of physical bullying. However, if you were to ask a present day student what the majority of bullying is, physical or emotional, I bet the answer would be a hands down EMOTIONAL BULLYING.
Emotional bullying is making someone feel as if they are less than they are. Calling someone names, starting rumors about someone or ostracizing them, ignoring them, all forms of EMOTIONAL BULLYING! All destructive, all intended to make someone feel bad about themselves. I recently had the opportunity to meet a woman who’s daughter committed “bullycide” (see jaredstory.com or bullypolice.org). “Bulycide” is the name given to suicide victims who choose to take their own lives to avoid being bullied. This woman shared the story of her daughter’s bullycide. It seems she was being emotionally bullied by her ex-friends, no longer part of the “group” for whatever reason. They turned to sending her notes and telling her she was worthless, “go home and kill yourself” they said and wrote to her in notes. She did. So, is a NO TOUCH policy effective in ending bullying and harassment? Maybe, but teaching manners, appreciation of diversity and education that we are all in this life together and depend upon each other might be a better way to help stop bullying. What do you think? Your opinions and comments are always welcome, don’t forget to visit my website www.youbigbully.com
Thursday, June 14, 2007
Students have been subjected to sexual transgressions often associated with incarceration. Yes, it does happen even in "safe, sleepy little communities! IT IS CALLED BULLYING! It exists in all levels of society, in all economic strata, in homes, schools, the workplace and in society.
As I would have told the students in Coopersville, MI, "Bullying hurts! No one deserves to live in pain."
You have the power to begin to eliminate bullying....don't support it! Don't empower the bully, don't repeat rumors, help those who are being bullied or at the very least, make sure they get helped. REPORT and Dangerous, Disturbing or possibly Destructive incident you are aware of.
Someone was aware of what was being done to these students! Someone knew it wasn't right! Someone did REPORT and quite possibly, lives were saved. What are your thoughts?
Don't forget to visit my website, www.youbigbully.com, take the bully survey and drop me an e-mail if I can help. Til next time....
The Recovering Bully